If you were to ask the country’s top dog trainers the key to success associated with obedience training, the majority would agree it is praise. When raising a child, praise works much the same way. We are certainly not comparing a child to a dog but it is important to understand how praise works and why it is often the one element for being a successful parent. Unfortunately, the power of praise is often overlooked when it comes to parenting.
As parents it is easy to give orders without giving much thought to the consequences. We live in a busy society, one where both parents work or single parents need to depend on childcare, schedules of getting children back and forth to inside and outside school activities are often overbooked, and a world with little time to enjoy. We want to provide encouragement, as well as information that can make parenting easier and more enjoyable, as well as result in children with excellent manners.
Take a minute to think how good you feel when someone at work or school compliments you for a job well done. Immediately, you feel important and valued because you received recognition. As a result, you want to continue doing what you were praised for but actually do it better, or perhaps start a new endeavor. The bottom line is that praise is one of the best motivators, especially for children and regardless of the age, it can have incredible results.
Even in very small children, praise makes a positive impact. The more a child is praised the more that child wants to please and do right. As an example, let us say you have a child under the age of one. After bath time, you could start by putting the bottle of powder, lotion, or bath soap in the child’s hand and then placing the item in the cabinet. Once you get the child to let go, you say something like, “Great job” or “Thank you for your help”. Something as simple as this starts the process of teaching the child that when something is done right, praise is the reward.
On the other hand, if you have a teenager you can still incorporate praise into the daily parenting regimen. It is never too late to acknowledge something done right. However, because teenagers are smart, they will see right through you if praise were being offered flippantly. For this reason, it is imperative that praise be given when due. In other words, if you were suddenly to start praising your child for every good deed, you could be sure he or she would question your motive and sincerity. Therefore, offer praise when it is warranted and be honest about how you feel without going overboard.
You do not need to beat yourself up if you miss an opportunity to praise your child but by being aware of your child’s actions and focusing on the positive instead of the negative, you would be amazed at what changes lies ahead. Praise can completely transform the entire atmosphere of the home, along with the behavior of the child. Studies show that when children are praised in addition to standard discipline, school grades go up, self-confidence levels increase, and the child’s respect toward everyone is greatly improved.
By nature, children feel they are evaluated for the things they do. Praise becomes a very powerful tool, one that boosts confidence and self-esteem. Ultimately, this can lead to incredible opportunities for that child later on in life. Praise reinforces when a child is doing good or right. Therefore, instead of consistently saying “no” or pointing out the things a child is doing wrong, offering praise allows the child to prove him or herself repeatedly!
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Article Added on Tuesday, October 11, 2011
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