|
After the Abusive Relationship Long Term Aid for Domestic Abuse Survivors
Do what you're called to do and the universe will support you. You've probably heard this, but may be scratching your head thinking about your bills, responsibilities and all of the what ifs...
This is understandable. So rather than jump in with blind faith, I want to invite your everyday casual, rational mind to do what you're called to do. And then, address the missing link domestic abuse survivors commonly bring to the table.
Doing What You're Called to Do Is Your JOB
When you're doing...
Leaving an Abusive Relationship What You Must Know to Leave an Abusive Relationship Safely
Often times we hear that leaving an abuser, can be deadly. According to FBI reports 75% of all homicides by intimate male partners occurred after the victim left.
Battered women are far more vulnerable to physical attack as well as attacks to their personal privacy, their civil liberties and their parental rights after they leave. Now you might ask why.
Why are battered women at greater danger when they leave?
When a victim leaves an abusive relationship and moves out, the mere physical...
Shedding Domestic Violence Survivor Habits Who s Fault Is It
? Most of the time what people do to us is not about us; it's all about them. But, when on the receiving end, we don't see it that way. We assume it is because of us.
This is especially true of domestic violence survivors, who have become accustomed to believing other people's actions toward them are their fault. It's part of the indoctrination of intimate partner violence: You made me do it. You made me say it, feel it, think it...
Domestic Abuse Survivor Faulty Thinking
If you are a...
Healing in Abusive Relationships 7 Secrets to Successful Survival in an Abusive Relationship
Far too often, we hear individuals in abusive relationships seeking to change their partners in order to change their relationship. While it is true that a change in either person will change the overall dynamic of the relationship, changing one's partner is only an option if it is partner-self-initiated.
Rather than holding onto something that is essentially out of one's controlactually not one's businesslook to changing what is within your control and is indeed your business: yourself. In...
Battered Women When Mature Women Leave Abusive Relationships
Dr. King, speak to how it is for the mature woman in an abusive relationship and how it is for her when she leaves, writes a reader.
My knee jerk response to this request was, the dynamics are the same. Battering is battering is battering. An abuse dynamic that is long standing or discovered later in life resembles an abuse dynamic earlier in life.
If it is, indeed, intimate partner violence, it will carry all of the defining characteristics of: controlling and possessive behavior,...
Domestic Violence Counseling When the Counselor Becomes Your Enemy
I often hear domestic violence survivors complain that the counselor they are seeing with their partner has sided with him/her. These victims expected to seek therapeutic remedy for the dysfunction that they live, and they discover they have gained another enemy.
Here are some things you will want to know if you are going to a therapist with your partner for domestic abuse.
1) Expect the therapy to be fertile ground for a continuation of what you experience in the privacy of your own home....
Identifying an Abusive Relationship The Power of a Diagnosis in Ending Domestic Abuse
The value of the diagnostic label has more to do with the way it impacts the person with the condition than anything else.
Can you remember a time in your life when you had a medical condition and you received a diagnosis that immediately lifted the weight off your shoulders and sent you to remedy your condition. My sense is the propelling one into remedy can happen no matter what the diagnosis. This is what I call the power of the label.
Before we give a specific condition a name, it is a...
Healing from Domestic Abuse How to Know if You Will Avoid Another Abusive Relationship
People say once a victim, always a victim. I beg to differ.
Over the years I have been watching men and women grow to become self-sufficient, self-respecting people who have no tolerance for being abused any more. These people have completely healed from domestic abuse.
How do you know if you are going to be one of these people versus the person that ends up in another abusive relationship? Here are some pointers for knowing you're home free when it comes to being victimized by intimate...
Psychological Help for Patients Victimized by Intimate Partners A Clinical Advocacy Model
When the family wants the patient sick, treatment and recovery are impossible. This is the way it usually appears for all practical purposes. Family members' defenses protect interpersonal and intergenerational dysfunction...unless the patient is internally inspired and externally supported to break the cycle.
As clinicians we know the patient's resistance is an integral part of the psychotherapeutic change process. And in the context of therapy we learn to work with it. We use it to create...
Abusive Relationship Healing 5 Tips for Lifting Depression after Your Abusive Relationship
It is common knowledge that when one is beaten down, they feel beaten down. So it's no wonder that domestic abuse survivors frequently suffer from depression. We see this in individuals living in an abusive relationship, and in those having left their abuser.
What is it that makes it possible for these people to heal their depression? The following actions to avoid, and steps to take, are essential to the resolution of depression for domestic abuse survivors.
1) Stop Negative self-talk
Even...
| 
