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After the Abusive Relationship Long Term Aid for Domestic Abuse Survivors
Do what you're called to do and the universe will support you. You've probably heard this, but may be scratching your head thinking about your bills, responsibilities and all of the what ifs...
This is understandable. So rather than jump in with blind faith, I want to invite your everyday casual, rational mind to do what you're called to do. And then, address the missing link domestic abuse survivors commonly bring to the table.
Doing What You're Called to Do Is Your JOB
When you're doing...
Healing in Abusive Relationships 7 Secrets to Successful Survival in an Abusive Relationship
Far too often, we hear individuals in abusive relationships seeking to change their partners in order to change their relationship. While it is true that a change in either person will change the overall dynamic of the relationship, changing one's partner is only an option if it is partner-self-initiated.
Rather than holding onto something that is essentially out of one's controlactually not one's businesslook to changing what is within your control and is indeed your business: yourself. In...
Domestic Violence Survival Tips 3 Keys to Surviving the Conditioning in an Abusive Relationship
Understanding the conditioning that occurs in abusive relationships is key to one's survival in, and after, the relationship. Here are three keys to help you see the role and effects of conditioning in abusive relationships.
1) You did not make him/her do it or say it.
You probably know this from the core of your being, but may have trouble believing it with your thinking brain, due to the ongoing conditioning that happens in abusive relationships. With most things in the relationshipwhen...
Abusive Relationship Healing 7 Secrets for Greater Well being after an Abusive Relationship
Adversity is part of life. It comes in all shapes and sizes. It's not what happens to you; it's what you do about it that matters most.
Battered women also come in all shapes and sizes. And I'm convinced that what they choose to do with their circumstances, after the fact, is far more important to the bigger picture of their lives than anything else.
Here are some things that will increase your well-being after an abusive relationship.
1) Keep yourself in a place of pure positive energy...
Healing from Domestic Abuse How to Know if You Will Avoid Another Abusive Relationship
People say once a victim, always a victim. I beg to differ.
Over the years I have been watching men and women grow to become self-sufficient, self-respecting people who have no tolerance for being abused any more. These people have completely healed from domestic abuse.
How do you know if you are going to be one of these people versus the person that ends up in another abusive relationship? Here are some pointers for knowing you're home free when it comes to being victimized by intimate...
Leaving an Abusive Relationship What You Must Know to Leave an Abusive Relationship Safely
Often times we hear that leaving an abuser, can be deadly. According to FBI reports 75% of all homicides by intimate male partners occurred after the victim left.
Battered women are far more vulnerable to physical attack as well as attacks to their personal privacy, their civil liberties and their parental rights after they leave. Now you might ask why.
Why are battered women at greater danger when they leave?
When a victim leaves an abusive relationship and moves out, the mere physical...
Abusive Relationship Healing 5 Tips for Lifting Depression after Your Abusive Relationship
It is common knowledge that when one is beaten down, they feel beaten down. So it's no wonder that domestic abuse survivors frequently suffer from depression. We see this in individuals living in an abusive relationship, and in those having left their abuser.
What is it that makes it possible for these people to heal their depression? The following actions to avoid, and steps to take, are essential to the resolution of depression for domestic abuse survivors.
1) Stop Negative self-talk
Even...
Abusive Relationships and Self Care The Impact of Meditation on Abusive Relationships
If you want to know if your partner is a classic abuser, learn meditation and do your practice when it fits into your life, rather than when he/she is around.
Here's what you will discover. Your partner will not be able to tolerate the fact that you may be having a marvelous time: a) in his/her absence, and b) in your solitude.
So he/she will be knocking at the door, interrupting your practice. He/She may demand to have the conversation that you longed to have days and weeks before. He/She...
Battered Women When Mature Women Leave Abusive Relationships
Dr. King, speak to how it is for the mature woman in an abusive relationship and how it is for her when she leaves, writes a reader.
My knee jerk response to this request was, the dynamics are the same. Battering is battering is battering. An abuse dynamic that is long standing or discovered later in life resembles an abuse dynamic earlier in life.
If it is, indeed, intimate partner violence, it will carry all of the defining characteristics of: controlling and possessive behavior,...
Healing Parental Alienation Abuse Lost Kidnapped Child as Trauma or as Love
Is your lost, kidnapped child your trauma or your love? Your answer to this question is the cornerstone to your healing the trauma of parental alienation abuse.
I was stunned into an appreciation of the trauma replacing love as I was watching Private Practice last night. Violet had suffered her unborn child having been ripped from her womb by one of her mentally ill patientsa violation like none other.
And then she could not bond with this baby. It was as though her trauma took over the...
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