Don t Put More Fingers On It

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DON'T PUT MORE FINGERS ON IT....

Can you imagine.....I'm sitting here at the desk, tired, really tired.It is 3:30 p.m. I have two more hours to work. I'm wondering how I'm going to cook at home, how I'm going to use that stove.

You know when the stove is really hot, we let it cool down, right!.....before we put our fingers on it .

Even children once they learned that when they put their fingers on a hot stove, they get burned, they usually don't put more fingers on it. isn't it true?

I remember long time ago my mom told me that, "people who are paralyzed never feel when they touch a hot pot" (I was about four when she told me that....). I was surprised to hear that, because it is very unusual to touch a hot pot and still feel nothing.

well, most of us love to get burned and I don't mean one finger but all fingers. I will give you an example...

How many times have you seen people after ending up their bad relationship they go back to contact their Exes and after been hurt the first, the second and the third time they keep doing it...

Dear reader have you ever been hurt, I mean really bad and when I say really bad I mean to a point where your entire YOU suffer. I'm talking about a place in you which control everything .

It is not a good idea to hurt your feelings once, twice..... and ....th times.


If you've been hurt by your ex, you shouldn't let him/ her do it many times to you.

You are worthy, you deserve better. you don't want to keep digging in the hole you've been trapped, you need to get out.

Here are few suggestions on your journey of freedom.

1 No contact rule.

I know there is a soft voice telling you to pick up the phone and call your Ex saying....."may be he/ she will talk to me or I just wanna say hi or we just wanna be friends."

Think of calling your Ex as putting your fingers on a hot stove. You will always get burned.

2. Do what you like

It is very important to do things you like when you broke up, bored or lonely because if your mind does not have anything to do will go for the dominant state which is feeling bored this is when you will start to build bad negative thought about yourself.

On the other hand when you do what you like, you will feel good about your self, more valuable person and this will create a positive thought process in your mind.

3. Volunteer

There is a very powerful force in helping others or a community. Think about it...the universe we live supplies us with every thing ,air ,water, food,...how much more will it give to us if we give our time and energy to it. Besides the joy you get in return will make you feel important member in the society as you contribute something to it. And we all want to be important to our community....Hey while you are volunteering, somebody might smile at you and the rest will be history....

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Sincerely,

Timeo Busyanya,
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PS Don't put more fingers on it