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by: Jacquie McTaggart PLEASE answer the following questions honestly. (Go ahead – you won’t be graded.) Does your child…
Chances are pretty good that a few of you answered, “yes” to some of these questions. Chances are even better that many of you answered, “no” to most of them. During my lengthy career (forty-two years) in the classroom I observed a drastic decline in what we call “Good Manners.” I have no answers (or theories) as to why this has occurred, but it has. I believe that we must make an attempt to correct the situation. Good manners are the cornerstone of courteous behavior. They provide the impetus to say the words and exhibit the behaviors that distinguish us humans from the rest of the animal kingdom. Good manners show consideration for others. Good manners demand that intentional sounds of physical relief such as belching and “fluffing” are saved for non-public areas. (You male readers may call “fluffing” by another name, but I’m sure you get the idea.) Good manners encompass all the things that make the people around us feel good. They compel us to eliminate words, sounds, and actions that cause others in our presence to feel uncomfortable. In essence, they enable us to be an accepted member of a civilized society. Good manners are not automatically caught, they must be taught. A child or adolescent does not magically discover on his own the fact that common decency and politeness help to make him a more socially acceptable person. Neither does he understand that those attributes will ultimately contribute to his success, and help to make him a happier individual. It’s up to us to teach our children these concepts. How do we do that? Good manners, like most values, must be demonstrated and lived in the home if they are to become a permanent part of the child’s character. The school should not be expected to bear the primary responsibility for teaching good manners. Seven hours a day for nine months of the year is not an adequate amount of time to instill a lasting principle or a moral value. (In one year, the average kid spends 1,253 hours in school and 7,507 hours out of school.) Teachers can force compliance (“Tell Jimmy you’re sorry”), but they can’t make good manners and common decency an automatic, knee-jerk response. Parents can. How? Parents need to demonstrate good manners in the home – day in and day out. Kids hear messages that are delivered by lecture – “You should…” They internalize that which they observe. Parents must “practice what they preach,” if they want the value of good manners to become a part of the child’s moral fiber. And they should begin this process when the child is very young. Politeness and good manners open the door to a successful and happy adult life. We need to give our kids the legs that will enable them to walk through that door. “Life is not so short but that there is always time enough for courtesy.”
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