•Adult Add | Rid Yourself Of The Mind Killer
How many times have you said to yourself, or had someone else tell you that you "should" do something. If you have ADD, it's probably often. We don’t know about you, but we hate the word “should.” It’s terrible, and it makes people with attention deficit frustrated and confused. The only person who “should” ever be telling you what you should or shouldn’t be doing is you.
Why is it that you "should" be doing something that your ADD decided you shouldn't?
When your attention deficit kicks...
•Adult Add | Who Told Your Add Brain, "You Have To Finish?"
Do you have a “three-quarter rule”? What if you get something launched and it's going well enough to exist, but it’s not really polished the way it should be. It's at about 75% of what it should be, but your ADD just won't allow you to make it awesome.
Well, what if you hire someone, and their only job is to finish all the stuff that you don’t finish? They're probably going to be very happy, because they’re learning about all the really cool, creative things that you're doing.
But they're...
•Adult Add: "hey, Doc... Sorry I Didn't Make It.--add."
Are you someone whose whole existence is rushing from one thing to the next thing, constantly apologizing, “I’m so sorry I’m late. What did I miss?" Or do you run from meeting to meeting or miss appointments with the dentist? (Or ignore them, because you know you won't make the appointment anyway.)
Do have ADD, and is that your life? Do you feel incompetent? Stuff like that can wreak havoc on your self-worth, especially if you have ADD. You begin to feel that the image you're putting out is...
•Adult ADD: Constructive Choices
In our last article in this series on ADD and relationships, "Adult ADD: It's OK to Be Different, But Not to Say, 'I Have ADD--live with It,'" we discussed the need to recognize that everyone does things differently, and that when we realize this and start making some changes, the relationship usually goes better.
So, these really are the choices: A) I’m going to change and improve my relationships and I’m gong to accept the changes as part of my life, or B) I’m going to whine about it, not...
•Adult ADD: The End Of Sticky Messes
You have attention deficit disorder or someone close to you does, or you probably wouldn't be reading this article, right? Let's talk a bit about organization, ADD, and how you can avoid the dreaded "stuff everywhere" syndrome.
The most notorious place for attention deficit induced clutter is in your bedroom. Clothes are probably scattered over most of it, shoes may be piled sky-high, and what's a laundry hamper? Right? We know how this feels, and had the same kind of problems, but we learned...
•Adult ADD: The Foolproof Airport System
Do you need a “Remember Where You Parked Your Car at the Airport” system? Do you like to think you're fairly smart, until you can’t find your car? Well, people with ADD are usually very intelligent, but keeping things together at stressful times, can just skyrocket your stress level.
The key to systems, in general, is that you ask your ADD brain three different questions.
First, “What’s the problem?”
In the case of "I can’t find my car at the airport," the problem is: "I can’t find my car...
•Adult ADD: When One Does And The Other Doesn't
Do you wake up every morning in a great mood and immediately start wanting to talk about all of your great ADD-induced ideas? Are you full of energy and ready to leap from the starting blocks? Many of us with ADD are.
But maybe your partner isn't quite so lively in the morning. Does he or she wake up in a quiet mood? It's not that they don't like mornings, but maybe they're just not ready to hear about the exciting ideas you have planned, until he or she's had coffee.
You can look at this...
•Adult Add: Why Can't Somebody Else Do It?
When you're bored, and you have ADD, you procrastinate about doing boring things and become frustrated, and well... they just don't get done. There are many things that you can do. We’ve already really beaten into the ground the fact that, as soon as you can, you need to start outsourcing and delegating them one at a time to other people.
However, when you have to do the boring tasks—when you’ve got to do the dishes, take out the garbage, or some kind of accounting if your accountant is sick...
•Adult ADD: You Control The Horizontal; You Control The Vertical
So, you have ADD, right? Do you ever find yourself fidgeting? Like... foot tapping, your whole body might be moving, your fingers tapping--that kind of fidgeting? For ADD people, this probably indicates stress of some kind or sheer boredom.
In fact, if you have ADD, you're probably constantly moving around. Most of the time you may not even notice it. You can be shaking your leg a million miles an hour, not notice, and get mad at someone else for the same kind of repetitive motion.
The major...
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