•Are You A Victim Of FABS? Part 2
Are You A Victim Of FABS? Part 2
by: Sibyl McLendon
When you have a case of FABS, it may be hard to eradicate, but it is far from impossible. Fear, Anger, Blame and Shame may be different emotions, but they can all be gotten rid of in the same ways:
First and foremost, it is very important to learn to LIVE IN THE MOMENT! The past is over and done with, and can never be changed, no matter how much we wish that it could. I remember watching a TV show called Biography, where they were...
•Are You A Victim Of FABS? Part One
Are You A Victim Of FABS? Part One by Sibyl MclendonHave you heard of the FABS? The FABS are quadruplets; they are not identical but they are very, very similar! The FABS are: Fear, Anger, Blame and Shame. This quartet love to arrive, uninvited, at people's houses and literally stay forever. They will certainly stay as long as you allow them to; they never seem to get tired of hanging around and causing troubles for the unsuspecting host.The FABS love to attach themselves to abused children,...
•Be Your Own Best Friend
Be Your Own Best Friend
by: Sibyl McLendon
What does being a "best friend" mean to you? I imagine that just about everyone is or has been a best friend to someone in their lives. I encourage you to take some time and examine what being someone's best friend really means.
Usually, a best friend is supportive of you when you need it. If they disagree with something that you are doing, they are honest about it without being judgmental with you. And, they can still be supportive of you...
•Care And Maintenance Of The Human Hard Drive
Care And Maintenance Of The Human Hard Drive
by: Sibyl McLendon
The human brain is very much like a hard drive. If you stop to think of it, they are both filled with billions of tiny bits of information, stored in the memory cells just waiting to be accessed. They both use electrical energy to find those bits and put them together to recreate something that we have placed there. They work on demand, and we expect them to instantly give us what we want.
And frankly, many people abuse...
•Disempowerment
Disempowerment by Sibyl McLendonDisempowermentBy Sibyl McLendon“Disempowerment”. What does it mean? It is the act of you taking away your own personal power! You are actually the only person who can. When you use certain words and think certain thoughts you “DIS”-empower yourself and make everything harder than it needs to be in your life.Every time you think, “I can’t do this,” you are creating your own reality, and that makes you exactly right. You can’t! When you tell yourself that you...
•Do You Have A Solid Foundation?
Do You Have A Solid Foundation? by Sibyl McLendonDo You Have A Solid Foundation? by Sibyl McLendonMy husband was contacted recently from a client of his who had fallen on hard times. The man hurt his back, and was forced to go on disability because he is unable to do his job anymore. A week after this happened his wife lost her job. Depressed and very angry, he called my husband to tell his tale, to complain and look for sympathy. He didn’t get much from us. The true test of a person is not...
•Embracing Your Wildness
Embracing Your Wildness
by: Sibyl McLendon
As small children, we were all wild. Not unlike the wolf pup in the den, we ran when we felt like it, sniffed or tasted things to see what they were, yelled when the mood struck us and danced at the drop of a hat. We loved to dig in the earth, heave a rock into a pool, roll and tumble on the ground and run naked whenever we could. We loved ourselves and we loved our bodies. We knew no fear.
Of course, we were also taught to give that all up....
•Going With The Flow (Instead Of Swimming Upstream)
Going With The Flow (Instead Of Swimming Upstream) by Sibyl McLendonOne of the biggest lessons that I have learned in this life is how futile it is to fight inevitability. Life is change; if we stop changing, we stop growing. Life is never going to go exactly the way that you want it to. Something is always waiting to pop up and bite you. The more that you attempt to make life go your way the more that it won’t. Your life will be so much more peaceful and smooth if you just learn to stop...
•Leap... And The Net Will Appear
Leap... And The Net Will Appear by Sibyl McLendonIn 1994, my life hit rock bottom. My husband was addicted to crack cocaine, my 17 year-old son had just gotten his 15 year-old girlfriend pregnant, we were about to get evicted from our home, I contracted a life-threatening illness with no health insurance and my Mother died very suddenly, and as her only child, the responsibility of this fell solely on me. My emotional hole was so deep, I could not even imagine the light at the end of the...
•Let It Be
Let It Be by Sibyl McLendonLet It BeBy Sibyl McLendonOne of the most difficult things that we have to learn is to just Let It Be. When life gets tricky, when there is something that we really, really want, when difficult challenges crop up our first inclination as humans is to grab on and worry it like a dog with a bone. We try to force things in order to achieve what it is that we want. We push and we manipulate to make the outcome be what we desire it to be.How many times have you viewed a...
•Remembering Where We Are Going
Remembering Where We Are Going by Sibyl McLendonThose of us who are attempting to walk the spiritual path in this lifetime often have a difficult time. Over and over again, I hear my friends say that they are tired of always being *broke, sick, depressed*… whatever the challenge may be. I am sometimes guilty of this myself. We are human here, after all. It would be so nice to have extra money every month after the bills are paid, or to wake up in the morning feeling wonderful and well....
•Rewriting The Story
Rewriting The Story by Sibyl McLendonFor those of us who had significantly less than ideal childhoods, life can become a mire of “what-ifs”. What could I have accomplished if not for the abuse? What if it has been different, where would I be today? Life can become a circle of anger, helplessness, hopelessness, and the feeling that we have been robbed of our potential.There is a tool that can help us to discover who we could have been if not for the destructive wasteland of our childhood. The...
•Sorting Emotional Laundry
Sorting Emotional Laundry by Sibyl McLendonThis week has been a real roller coaster at my house. A lot of emotional dirty laundry is piling up at my door. As much as I would like to not answer it, that isn't realistic. Avoidance of troubles is not the answer. I long ago learned that it you let that stuff pile up, soon you won't be able to get out of the house anymore.So, when I feel as if I am trying to stand up on a teeter-totter, the trick is in the balance. Here, I am talking about my...
•Ten Steps To Empowerment
Ten Steps To Empowerment by Sibyl McLendon1.Let go of the past. The past is gone forever, and hanging on to it keeps you from living fully today. Pain, anger, and regret are like quicksand. You can never alter the past.2.Forgive yourself. We all have things that we have done that we wish we hadn’t. No one is perfect, nor should we try to be. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and move on.3.Forgive others. Forgiving those who have injured us is not for their benefit, it is for ours. Holding...
•Ten Ways To Achieve Harmony
Ten Ways To Achieve Harmony by Sibyl McLendon1.Meditate on a regular basis. You do not have to isolate yourself and chant mantras to meditate. Just take 15 minutes a day, sit quietly (maybe listen to some soothing music) and let your mind relax and wander.2.Stop and think before you act/react. Ask yourself if the situation is really going to matter tomorrow or next week. If the answer is no, then there is no reason to get upset today. If the answer is yes, then ponder how to solve the...
•The Road To Inner Peace
The Road To Inner Peace by Sibyl McLendonThe road to inner peace is not found on any map or in any self-help book. Books can help guide you, but they can only point you in a direction, you have to find the actual path for yourself.There are universal road signs and guideposts that help you to know when you are near, and when you have found the path, however.The first sign you might encounter is when you are not upset by something that would have upset you before. The phrase, "don't sweat the...
•Toxic Friendships
Toxic Friendships by Sibyl McLendonThis article is as much about life lessons as it is about toxic friendships. I learned an interesting truth about myself recently, and I just wanted to share it.In this life, we are all here to learn lessons, and we will keep being presented with the opportunity to learn them until we get it right. One of the lessons I have to learn this time around is about the people I choose to let into my life. I used to be the kind of person who would let anyone into...
•Twenty Ways To Inner Peace
Twenty Ways To Inner Peace by Sibyl McLendon1.Learn to let go of the past. 2.Live for today.3.Don’t sweat the little things, and 99% of everything is little if you view it that way.4.Find quiet time for yourself every single day without fail. You deserve it.5.Raise your awareness level. Look at flowers, the sunset, your kids at play…6.Spend time with peaceful people in peaceful places.7.Eliminate every stressor that you possibly can from your life.8.Find something that you enjoy doing and...
•What I Learned From A Parakeet
What I Learned From A Parakeet by Sibyl McLendonI want to tell you about the lesson that I learned from my parakeet.Yes, I did say that I learned something from a parakeet. I suppose thatit is possible that I have too much time on my hands. Moving on... My parakeet is named Yazzie. Yazzie is Navajo for small or little. Yazzie is just your average parakeet, she spends her day eating, cruising around her cage, and playing with her bell. This past week, Yazzie's bell broke, and she was fairly...
•What’s In A (Domain) Name?
What’s In A (Domain) Name?
by: Sibyl McLendon
Choosing a domain name is a very important first step for anyone starting a business on the Internet. This name is the first impression that strangers are going to have about you and your business. You are going to need to give this decision some real thought.
It is very likely that you have a name in mind already. Something catchy, perhaps? Something that has meaning to you. Maybe you always wanted to name your business after you...
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