•Advice For People Who Get Tongue-Tied When Talking to Others
Are you one of those people who gets tongue tied when you meet someone new? Do you wonder what to talk about when you don�t know the other person? Do you feel you have to start showing off to impress a new person you have just met? Learn some simple conversation strategies and just be yourself!
When you need to speak with someone new, do you break out in a cold sweat, wondering how you can impress the other person? Do you worry that you babble too much? You�ll actually have a better...
•Are you a Sleep Walking Zombie?
Are you a Sleep Walking Zombie?
by: Royane Real
Do you get enough sleep? Chances are you don’t. Many people living in modern industrial societies suffer from a chronic, and worsening sleep deficit.
Until a few decades ago, most people lived lives so very different from ours that we would scarcely recognize them. Until fairly recently in human history the majority of people lived in small villages or on farms, not in big cities. There were no electric lights. There weren’t any faxes...
•Are You Being Lied To?
Sometimes we suspect that someone is lying to us about a very important matter. It could be a matter of where they spent a couple of hours, or they might be trying to cover up who they were with.
How can we tell if someone is lying to us?
Recently I read a book that gives a lot of tips on how to deal with a situation where we suspect that someone might be trying to lie to us or bluff us.
This book is �Get Anyone to do Anything� by David J. Lieberman.
This book is filled with...
•Are You Co-dependent?
One of the greatest benefits of having close friendships is that our friends can support and help us when things get rough in our lives.
In exchange for the support our friends give us during a crisis, most of us also help our friends when they need it.
In a relationship between two emotionally healthy adults, the roles of giving and receiving help are balanced. Both people offer help and receive help from each other in approximately equal amounts.
However, there are some people who...
•Are You Really Sick? Maybe You're Just Thirsty!
Yesterday I was supposed to have lunch with my friend Margaret, but she told me in the morning that she didn’t want to walk to the restaurant where we were supposed to meet because she had painful arthritis in her foot.
I asked her, “Do you want to hear what helped my arthritis go away?” and of course she did.
Then I told her about a strange little book I had read a few years titled “Your Body’s Many Cries for Water” by F. Batmanghelidj, M.D. The theory that Dr. Batmanghelidj proposes is...
•Can We Stop the Aging Process?
If you’re still alive, you’re growing older every day.
You may not notice it, but you are.
When we make that great shift out of our teenage years into our twenties, most of the changes we encounter about growing older are good.
Whe we are in our twenties, growing older means a lot more freedom and a lot of adventure. Physically, we are at our peak of perfection.
In our thirties, we are starting to enjoy many of the benefits of growing older as we accumulate more wisdom and in...
•Create a Social Life For Yourself - Don't Wait For Others!
When you are faced with the prospect of yet another weekend alone, do you ever take the initiative to call someone you know and suggest a fun activity such as having coffee, or attending a movie? Or do you always take the passive approach and hope someone else will call you? If you spend your whole life waiting for the phone to ring, hoping that someone, somewhere, will call and invite you out to do something, you are giving up control of your social life to everyone else.
Why should...
•Don't Be Resentful
Maureen worked in an office with twenty other people, processing checks. She didn’t particularly like her job, but she didn’t particularly dislike it either. Getting ahead in her career wasn’t important to her until the day that her friend and co-worker Betty was promoted to be the boss of the unit.
Betty had not being doing the job as long as Maureen had, but Betty was always cheerful, hardworking and ambitious, where Maureen had been low-key and easy going.
Until Betty got the...
•Don't Be Too Busy For Friends
Do you spend all your time working and have very little time to relax? If you are chasing money all the time and ignoring your relationships, your quality of life will suffer no matter how much money you make.
If you currently feel that you don’t have enough friends in your life, one reason may be that you have let yourself become too busy to make time for the relationships you already have.
Nurturing and maintaining friendships requires effort and commitment. Many of us let our lives...
•Fighting For Your Life
Recently the well known American news anchor Peter Jennings died of lung cancer just a few months after he publicly announced that he had the disease and that he was going to fight it with everything he had.
After his death, I read some of the tributes that poured in about the life of Peter Jennings. One of the common themes that appeared in the statements made by his friends and colleagues was that they remembered what a determined, competitive man he was.
They said that he took on his...
•Here is Some Help If You Are Very Shy
Do you suffer from shyness. If you do, you probably feel very embarrassed about this condition.
Many people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations.
In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem.
Some people however, are afflicted with a degree of shyness so severe that it is almost disabling. This type of acute...
•How to Create Confidence in Your Learning Ability
If you are a student who is studying and facing exams, you already know that you will benefit from learning better studying techniques and better note-taking methods. What you may not know is that an important part of being a good learner is to feel very confident about your learning ability.
Why is it important to have good confidence in our ability to learn?
When you don’t have a good confidence in your learning ability, you will approach learning situations and exams in a state of...
•How to Improve Your Creative Thinking
Would you like to become more creative in your thinking?
Before you answer yes or no, think about what that word "creativity" means to you.
If you associate creativity with artistic expression, and you happen to be a middle-manager in a corporation, you may think increased creativity is not really necessary to your life. But creativity is something far, far broader than artistic expression.
Your idea of a creative person might be someone who painting beautiful pictures all day long....
•How to Keep Your Brain Healthy as You Age
No matter what our current age, we all want to have a healthy body and a healthy mind as we get older. There is not much pleasure in living a long life if our final years are spent in pain and if we lose our ability to think and remember.
As much as we dread suffering physical pain and illness in old age, many of us fear even more the prospect of losing our mental capacities.
We know that some people are able to live into their eighth and ninth decades still mentally sharp and physically...
•How to Make Friends When It Seems That People Don't Like You
Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, other people still don�t like you? Learn what you can do to make friends when it seems as if people don�t like you.
Have you been trying hard to make friends with no good results to show for all of your efforts?
If it seems that you have been trying hard to make friends, but that other people still don�t want to be your friend, you may have come to the conclusion that there�s something wrong with you. That maybe you are basically...
•How to Make More People Like You
When you meet new people for the first time, do you usually like most of the new people that you meet?
Or do you find that you usually dislike new people, unless they can eventually prove after a long time that they deserve your friendship?
Perhaps you have never thought about this before. And you may even wonder if it’s really important. Does it really matter very much if you like most people when you first meet them, or if you decide to like them much later, after you get to know them...
•How to Mix Negativity and Creativity Together
Do you know any people who are always negative whenever new creative ideas are proposed? These are the people who are always saying, “That will never work,” or “That’s a bad idea”. You may even be such a person yourself, always looking for and finding the flaws in any plan.
Is being negative about new creative ideas always bad?
It depends.
An ability to be critical of new ideas can be a force for evil, but it can also be a force for good. People who like to pick apart and criticize...
•How to Motivate Yourself for Studying
When we are faced with a study project that seems exceptionally difficult and overwhelming, it can be to maintain a high level of interest and motivation for the duration of the learning process.
You can improve both your motivation and your performance by breaking up the project into smaller sections, and then giving yourself a series of well thought-out, well-timed rewards each time you complete one of the parts.
The first step is to break up the project into manageable chunks.
If you...
•How To Overcome Your Fear of Being Rejected
It is a fact of life that when we make social overtures to other people, we face the risk that people will sometimes reject us. The only people who never experience rejection are those who never interact with other human beings.
Otherwise, everyone occasionally experiences situations in which they are rejected. You might get turned down for coffee, for a dance, for a party, a relationship, or even for marriage.
Rejection is never fun to experience, and for some people, it’s not easy to...
•How to Start a Conversation With Someone You Don�t Know Well
Do you find it easy to make conversation with new people you�ve just met? Or does the thought of trying to make conversation with someone new make you break out in a cold sweat?
If you don�t feel comfortable making casual conversation with new people you have just met, you will find it harder to make new friends.
One of the most common reasons that people have difficulty making conversation with someone they don�t know very well is because they put too much pressure on...
•How You Can Double, Triple, or Even Quadruple Your Reading Speed!
How You Can Double, Triple, or Even Quadruple Your Reading Speed! by Royane RealAre you drowning in a sea of unread papers? Do you feel frustrated because you cannot keep up with your reading assignments? You may have wondered if you should take a speed-reading course. Or can you learn to improve your reading ability by yourself? The good news is that if you are committed and actually do the work, you can develop your own speed-reading program at home. You can greatly increase your reading...
•If You Want Other People to Like You, Like Yourself First!
If You Want Other People to Like You, Like Yourself First!
by: Royane Real
Many of us mistakenly believe that it’s wrong or conceited, to think we have any good qualities. We may spend a lot of time berating ourselves for our negative qualities, thinking that self criticism is the key to improving our performance. However, a constant focus on our supposed shortcomings can hinder our efforts to make friends with other people.
How can we have the confidence to make new friends if we...
•Improve Your Word Power Easily!
If you want to be a great communicator, do you need to have a great vocabulary?
Not necessarily!
In the history of the English language, some of the most dramatic messages that have ever been uttered used only very simple words to stir the blood, or touch the heart.
Look at any well-known passage in the Bible. Chances are it doesn’t rely on fancy word manipulation for its power.
Think of Lincoln’s Gettysberg Address. Although the language that President Lincoln used is not the...
•Join a Support Group to Get Encouragement
When you are facing a particularly difficult time in your life, whether it’s because you’re struggling with an addiction, or perhaps because someone you love is an addict, or if you are finding life hard because you have just been diagnosed with a serious illness, or if you don’t have many friends to turn to because you are socially isolated, there is an easy way that you can quickly fill your life with kind and caring people who will help you on your journey.
Many people have found that a...
•Life Lessons From Hurricane Katrina
During the past couple of weeks, like many millions of other people around the world I spent a lot of time watching the horrific events taking place in New Orleans, Louisiana, unable and unwilling to believe that what I was seeing was actually taking place in the United States of America.
And though we often forget most big disasters after just a few weeks, I think that people will be talking about the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina for a long time to come.
Like many other people, as the...
•Loneliness - Why it's a Growing Problem
Do you often feel lonely? If you do, you may spend a lot of time wondering what’s wrong with you.
It may seem as if everyone else but you has lots of friends. It may seem like everyone else is always getting invited to go to exciting parties. And it may seem like you’re the only one who is left at home, waiting for the phone to ring, wondering why no one ever calls you to invite you out.
Actually, loneliness is much more common than you might think. There is actually an epidemic of...
•Reduce Your Stress
It's no secret that for many of us life has become more high speed and stressful.
And the stress seems to be increasing.
Life for most of us today is highly pressured. Many of us feel stressed because of too little money, and too many urgent things to do, and not enough time to relax and unwind.
We are often sleeping too little, eating the wrong foods, sometimes drinking too much coffee, smoking too many cigarettes, juggling too many responsibilities, facing impossible deadlines, and...
•Seven Types of Intelligence
Is there more than one major form of intelligence?
Harvard professor Dr. Howard Gardner has been studying the topic of intelligence for many years and he has suggested that we should revise and expand our idea of what constitutes intelligence to include at least seven forms of intelligence.
The types of intelligence proposed by Dr. Gardner are: verbal-linguistic, logical-mathematical, visual-spatial, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, social-interpersonal, and intra-personal.
People who have a...
•Should You Commission a Photo-realistic Painting?
What is Photo-realistic art?
Photo-realism is a style of painting where the artist creates a very exact, extremely detailed, accurate depiction of the subject matter.
This highly detailed, accurate style is also known by several other names. For example, a photo-realistic painting may also be called hyper–realistic, or super-realistic art.
One characteristic that all photo-realistic paintings have in common is their extreme attention to detail. Whether the artist is working in...
•Should You Cut Back on Your Caffeine?
Many sober, law abiding people who would never dream of knowingly ingesting a mind- altering drug, actually consume one every day—caffeine!
Caffeine is so pervasive in our culture and in many other cultures that we often forget it is literally a drug that affects our brain. Caffeine is present in coffee, tea, many cola drinks and over the counter medications.
The real question is—is caffeine a bad drug, or is it "okay"? Is caffeine even better than "okay", does it do good things for us?...
•Simple Tips To Improve Your Memory
1) When you need to remember something important, find a way to create an image about it in your mind that is very funny or bizarre. Your brain finds it much easier to remember things that are unusual, or funny or scary, while it easily forgets things that don�t stand out in any way.
2) Don�t cut back on your hours of sleep. Your brain needs to use your sleeping hours to put new information into long term memory storage.
3) When you need to remember a long string of letters, or a...
•Students - Are You Taking Notes the Wrong Way?
When you study, do you take notes the old fashioned way, writing down everything you think is important? There are many ways of taking notes, and for some people, the most effective way to remember a lot of information is to make learning maps or mind maps. Find out how.
If you are a university or college student, you probably make a lot of notes when you are attending classes or reading your text books. Then later you review the notes you made when you are preparing for exams.
You...
•Students - Reprogram Your Mind to Be a Better Learner
Do you feel as if learning new things in school or at work is hard for you? A lack of confidence will actually make new learning even harder! Here is a way to use visualization to help you improve your learning.
If you want to become a good student, it�s important to have confidence in yourself as a learner. It�s important to believe that you actually like learning, and it�s important to believe that you really enjoy the topic you are studying.
Why? When you think that you�re...
•Study More Effectively and Remember Better
Are you a student? Or paerhaps a business person who needs to learn a presentation? Or an actor who needs to learn some dialogue?
If so, you may sometimes find it difficult to remember what you study. How can you keep your material fresh in your mind?
You already realize that reviewing the material you are studying more than once can help you remember it better.
But you may have wondered if there is an ideal way to schedule your reviews.
Is it best to study large chunks of material at...
•The Amazing Health Benefits of Berries!
Long before winter comes, black bears in the forest spend all their time eating everything they can sink their teeth into. During the summer, bears eat and eat and eat, trying to get as fat as they possibly can, and when the weather turns cold, they look for a place to curl up and then they sleep the winter away.
Now, the habits of bears might not seem like something you should try to follow. After all, doctors are always warning us humans that we shouldn�t overeat, and that we...
•The Coming Alzheimer's Epidemic
Few diseases scare us as much as Alzheimer's does. Alzheimer's disease robs the victim of memory and thinking, and the sense of self, leaving behind a shell of a body. The world is poised on the brink of an epidemic of Alzheimers as many countries face an aging population.
Alzheimer’s disease is a disease that strikes terror into many of us, especially as we get older and start to notice our first incidents of disturbing memory lapse.
Alzheimer’s is a very serious brain disease that...
•The Truth About Persistence and Success
If you really want to be successful in life, you probably spend a lot of time reading motivational books and articles. You want to know what qualities are required for success.
When we read about the tools required to achieve success, very often we are told that if we really want to be successful, we must have persistence.
Persistence is the quality of never giving up when we encounter challenges. Of holding on to our dream. Of refusing to be discouraged no matter what the odds, no...
•Use Eye Contact Effectively in Conversations
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to make conversation easily, and turn their conversation partners into friends quickly, while others struggle with conversation and friendship?
Researchers have discovered that one of the most striking differences between people who are socially confident and those who are shy, is that confident people have much more frequent eye contact with their conversational partners.
Many shy people never make eye contact at all, tending to look downward...
•Use Guided Visualization to Expand Your Mind Powers
The human mind has boundless potential, and humans have been exploring many ways to use the mind for thousands of years.
The following technique of visualization can help you acquire new knowledge and skills more quickly than with conventional techniques.
Over the centuries, human beings have developed many techniques to gain access to their inner wisdom and improve learning.
One technique that many people have found very beneficial is to have an imaginary guide that they can call...
•Use Mind Maps to Increase Your Creative Thinking
Do you want an easy method to boost your creative thinking ability?
It can be done with a simple change in the way you make notes when you are trying to organize your thoughts.
When you need to organize your thoughts, you probably make notes the old fashioned way, writing down everything you think is important. If you want to improve your ability to generate new creative ideas, try the technique of making mind maps to organize your thoughts.
There are several techniques that can help...
•Use Your Breath to Improve Your Learning
Guess what action you’ve performed more often than any other in your life? Is it eating? Sleeping? Crying? Laughing? No! Give up? It’s breathing! You’ve been breathing pretty much non-stop since you were born, with few exceptions.
So with all those years of practice you probably think you’ve figured out how to do it properly by now. Would it surprise you to learn that your breathing technique was probably better when you were an infant than it is today?
Watch the way a baby breathes...
•Use Your Senses to Pick Your Classes
When you were very young and going to school, chances are that the teacher relied very much on teaching you by using your sense of sight and your sense of hearing.
You probably had to listen a lot, and read a lot.
Yet not everyone learns well with using these two senses. Some people need to learn by doing.
The reason is that for each person, we each have a unique learning style, and unique sensory preferences. One sense usually dominates in us.
As an adult learner you will be able to...
•What Does a High IQ Really Mean?
You have probably heard the term "IQ" many times, and you probably know it has something to do with measuring intelligence.
The letters "IQ" stand for "intelligence quotient", and an IQ test is widely used as a way to measure intelligence.
The test most frequently used today to measure intelligence is called the Stanford-Binet Intelligence Test.
The earliest version of it was developed in France in 1905. The original test has been revised several times over the years, with a major...
•What I Learned From Doris
When I was twenty-two, I was befriended by a woman named Doris who was thirty years older than I was. We became very close friends and remained so until her death at the age of eight-two.
When Doris turned seventy-five, she was already widowed. The week she turned seventy-five, Doris threw two birthday parties for herself, one on a Wednesday night, and one on Saturday. Over thirty different people attended each party.
I was the only person invited to both. In all, about seventy of Doris’...
•What is Intelligence?
What is intelligence? Can it really be measured?
Although IQ tests measure a certain aspect of intelligence potential, there isn't complete agreement that what is being measured is actually intelligence.
Standard intelligence tests focus a lot on exploring and measuring linguistic/logical/mathematical ability. But is that really the same quality as intelligence? Or is intelligence something broader than that?
We have all met people who have a lot of "book smarts" but who seem to have...
•What to Say When You Have Hurt Your Friend
In every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt. Sometimes both people have become very angry at each other, or both feel hurt.
Hurt feelings can be the result of a slip of the tongue, a misunderstanding, or a deed committed in bad judgment. Sometimes feelings are hurt deliberately in the heat of anger and regretted later.
If we were the guilty party, we might...
•When You Are Too Nice For Your Own Good
Are you too nice? How can anyone be “too nice”? Isn’t being “nice” a good quality to have in a relationship?
When niceness is a sign of genuine respect, kindness and interest in another, it is a wonderful quality to have. When the “niceness” is a by-product of low self-esteem, passivity, or desperate loneliness, it can be a liability, and can make other people feel uneasy.
Have you ever met a person who never expresses their real preferences, opinions, or desires, even in the smallest...
•Why Your Brain Needs Your Body to Exercise!
If you really want to be at your absolute peak mentally, if you want to have a dynamic and well functioning brain, an essential component of your program must include regular physical exercise. Does that surprise you?
You might wonder why physical exercise is important if your main priority is to improve how well your brain works.
People often forget that the brain is part of the physical body, and it has very important physical needs.
Your brain is nourished by the blood that comes...
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