A New Beginning With The People At Work
A New Beginning With The People At Work
by: Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
There's a big opportunity here! The holidays bring a change in spirit in most folks. Even though they may be more tired than usual from all the demands of the season, they are filled with holiday cheer. Key time to heal relationships at work!
Do something nice for those you work with. Sounds simple, enough, but you may have some resistance to the idea. Perhaps it seems like a phony or superficial thing to do. On one level,...
GO BIG OR GO HOME!
GO BIG OR GO HOME! by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD"Make no little plans, they have no magic to stir your blood...MAKE BIG PLANS. Aim high in hope and work.
" So wrote Daniel H. Burnham in the lastcentury. The big plans are important. They capture your vision.The next step is to break them down into "do-able" chunks, chunksthat can be done in even one day. That is what gives you adefinite sense of accomplishment, isn't it? The big plans arenecessary, the baby steps, imperative! My daughter shared a...
HOW IS MY RELATIONSHIP GROWING?
HOW IS MY RELATIONSHIP GROWING? by Rhoberta Shaler, PhDWhen you choose your partner and commence a full-timerelationship, you look forward to a future of love, support,encouragement, communication and intimacy. Right? After all, youare in love and you're both on your best behaviour--so how couldthere be any problems?Learning how to establish and maintain a loving, supportiverelationship is much like creating a beautiful garden. It takesinformation, planning, thought, skill, time, and most of...
Just a Little Willingness to Love...
Just a Little Willingness to Love... by Rhoberta Shaler, PhDWhat is love? A ticklish sensation around the heart that can't bescratched? Something I earn when I do things right? Something Igive to get something back? My definition is that love is awillingness to choose to see and respond to the best in anotherperson, even when they are not experiencing or expressing itthemselves at the moment. This gives you the opportunity to beloving, no matter what the other is doing! It also requires...
Love At Home
Love At Home by Rhoberta Shaler, PhDIt's Valentine's Day. This day focused on expressions of love canbe wonderful. Unexpected flowers arrive. Gold embossed boxes ofdelicious chocolates are given. Cute stuffed animals proclaiminglove are exchanged. Great start! A good beginning. The importantquestion, though, is: "Do you demonstrate your love every otherday?" Unless you do, Valentine's Day is just another 'HallmarkHoliday'.In the U.S. and Canada, I've noticed an interesting phenomenon. Idid...
Mountain Climbing Over Molehills
Mountain Climbing Over Molehills
by: Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
Someone has said that the greatest cause of ulcers is mountain-climbing over mole-hills! Is that the way you get your exercise? Many folks allow themselves to be thrown off course by minor or imaginary threats. Often they interpret these as life-or-death, or do-or-die situations. They put so much energy into their worries that there is none available for progress. Some even believe that worrying demonstrates caring. This is...
Speak Up!
Speak Up!
by: Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
Ever been in a meeting with something important to say and remained silent? You may have felt the flush of the good idea and the rising adrenalin. You may have moved to the front of your seat and readied your body to speak...and then didn't. What stopped you?
Certainly there is wisdom in knowing when to speak and when not to. Knowing the politics of a situation or the time constraints, you may choose not to speak. Often, though, you may have a unique...
Would You Rather Be Wealthy?
Would You Rather Be Wealthy?
by: Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
Would you rather be wealthy or poverty-stricken? Not a difficult question to answer, is it? How do you think your thoughts impact on your financial state?
Just as the earth contains in its depths great riches--oil, diamonds, gold, uranium, silver, gas and countless other things--you also have the real riches of life deep within you. Your innate intelligence and your willingness to use your mind are precious. Begin mining within!...
You Teach People How to Treat You
You Teach People How to Treat You
by: Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
So often we hear people ask the question, "Why does he/she/they treat me/us so badly?". The honest answer, in most cases, is "Because you let him, her or they!"
If that seems too simple an answer, think of it this way. You make a date for lunch with someone new. They arrive twenty minutes late, citing traffic, office hold ups, the weather, their car or their kids. Of course, things do happen to detain even the best intentioned...
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