•10 Things Between You and A Great Life
10 Things Between You and A Great Life by Kathy Gates1. Unfinished business: Free yourself from the past byidentifying and cleaning up your unfinished business.Call an end to whatever you started - a project, a diet, afeud, a commitment - by dumping it, delegating it, ordoing it.2. Ignoring the Present: Today is a result of all theToday's that came before it. A well lived present willnaturally produce wonderful future. Save a dollar today,and you'll have a dollar tomorrow. Eat 500 calories...
•10 Ways To Spring Clean Your LIFE
10 Ways To Spring Clean Your LIFE by Kathy Gates1. Clean out the anger, hatred, jealousy, and self doubt.2. Move out the frustrations, and lack of communication. Wash away delay and procrastination.3. Dust off your attitude, and put on a fresh coat of positive.4. Throw out misunderstanding, and lack of patience.Sweep out the dirt of gossip or lies5. Recycle old relationships, roles, and routines that nolonger work into a new, useable form. 6. Open the shades and let in the warmth of...
•4 Super Reasons You Will Love "Easifying" Your Life
4 Super Reasons You Will Love "Easifying" Your Life by Kathy GatesAre you someone who wants a simpler life, but who associates simplifying with giving away everything you own, and going back to baking your own bread? Unfortunately, that attitude can scare you away from making the simple (pardon the pun) kind of changes that can make your life so much easier, better, and happier. Instead, let's agree that simplifying means whatever you want it to mean in your own particular life. For me, it...
•5 Crucial Questions That Can Change Your Life
5 Crucial Questions That Can Change Your Life by Kathy GatesEver feel like you're stuck in a mud hole on the Road to Happiness? Ask yourself these crucial questions and see where you can shore up your spinning tires. 1. Time: How do you spend your time? Is it wasted time, or refreshing time? Does it take your toward your goals, or away from them? Are you consciously spending time, or just letting it happen? It's an age-old proverb, but every single person get the same number of hours each...
•5 Ways To Jump Start Your Morning
5 Ways To Jump Start Your Morning by Kathy GatesI'm not a morning person. I'm lucky to know myname, much less bounce out ready to face DeniseAustin's morning workout. Not this girl. So Idecided to stop fighting it, and start working with it.As the decorators say, if you can't hide it, paint it red.So that means that I need to take care of some thingsthe night before in order to start my day off in a calm,collected way. If you're not much of a morningperson either, try these ideas, and see if...
•6 Reasons Why Setting Goals Doesn't Work
6 Reasons Why Setting Goals Doesn't Work by Kathy GatesYou're frustrated. You dutifully follow Goal Setting 101advice, but it still seems that you lose sight of what youwant and how you'll get it. See if any of these commongoal setting mistakes - and how to correct them - arebehind your frustrations. Make the adjustment, and tryagain.1 Hung-Up-On Goals - It's easy to get plugged into agoal, and even though it's not working, you hang on to itout of sheer habit or willfulness. That sets you up...
•7 Lies That Prevent Powerful Results
7 Lies That Prevent Powerful Results by Kathy GatesEveryone has something in their life that they wouldlike to change. Nobody's life circumstances andenvironment are perfect. But what do you tend to tellyourself about these circumstances? Often it's easy tofix blame on others. Consider, however, that yourfeelings are not caused by your cranky boss, or theconstruction on the street, or your inconsiderate friend;but rather your feelings are caused by what you TELLyourself about your...
•7 Things for your NOT-Do List
7 Things for your NOT-Do List by Kathy GatesHave you ever noticed how easy it is to find yourself reacting to life's daily busy-ness? You end up accomplishing nothing of real value. Try this "Not-Do" List, to see where you could cut out some of the intrusions on your daily life, so that you can find time to look at what's really important to you. 1. Don't answer the phone. Isn't that why God made answering machines and teenagers? Take the calls on YOUR schedule instead of everyone else's....
•7 Things Happy People Know How To Do
7 Things Happy People Know How To Do
by: Kathy Gates
Ever notice how some people just seem to be able to be content and bounce back no matter what the circumstances? Research shows that this isn’t a gift or a talent – it’s a skill that they have developed. Surprised? Well, the real surprise is that you too can put to work their techniques and make your life happier too.
1. Happy people cooperate with life.
Each person has a destiny to fulfill. You can fight it or cooperate with...
•7 Ways To Push Past Procrastination
7 Ways To Push Past Procrastination by Kathy GatesWhen you find yourself procrastinating on a particular project, or just delaying in general, it is always a good idea to ask why. If a task is difficult, it's difficultfor a reason; you need to know what that reason is, even if it'sjust a nagging habit you've developed.Yes, procrastination can be just a habit, and sometimessociety even rewards you for delaying action, such as lateseason Christmas bargains. It's not always a bad thing tolook...
•7 Ways To Put Your Life On A Diet
7 Ways To Put Your Life On A Diet by Kathy GatesLife is hard enough without piling more and moreexpectations on yourself. It's like trying to diet in achocolate factory! Instead try these 7 ways to help youlighten up, reduce worry, and give yourself a break. You'llcome out on the other side with a simpler, happier, easierlife.1. Decide Right Now To Expect Nothing."Wait a minute", you say, "if I expect nothing, won't I getnothing?" Of course you can live "down" to expectations.In this...
•7 Weeks To A Happier Life
7 Weeks To A Happier Life by Kathy GatesLife is usually what we make it. Wait a minute -- didI say "make it"? I know, I know, the conventionaltheory is that "life happens" -- um, yeah, I cleanedthat up a bit.And while there are things that none of us can control-- weather, economy, construction crews, other people-- there are many things that you are in charge of.These are the things that help you lead a happier life.Put one into place in the SPECIFICS of your life, andat the end of 7 weeks...
•Beat The Procrastination Blues
Beat The Procrastination Blues by Kathy GatesEver find yourself delaying and delaying on something untilit becomes a crisis? That's when Procrastination has takencharge of your life -- instead of YOU being in charge ofyour life.Procrastination is as natural to human beings as eating. It's easy to do things we want to do, but the things we finddifficult or unpleasant are what we put off. And sometimesdelaying a little bit here and there is not a big deal. Butif procrastination is habitual for...
•Better Future? Better Start Now!
Better Future? Better Start Now! by Kathy GatesFamous Hockey Star Wayne Gretsky once said, "You miss 100% of the shots you never take." Famous Southern mother (mine) frequently said, "You can't win if you don't play". Those words often still ring in my ears today - Am I willing to agree to losing by not at least trying, I ask myself.Many times I've heard myself complain, "I'm trying so hard, but nothing seems to be happening." When it actually comes down to it, however, what I'm doing is...
•Got "Have-Tos"?
Got "Have-Tos"? by Kathy GatesEver had an attack of the "have-tos"? "Have-tos" arean interesting phenomenon. They come in severalvariations like haveta, gotta, needto.also sometimesreferred to as "hate-tos".These "havetos" seem to invade our daily life. First,try listening to others to notice how often they say this.Then listen to yourself as well. I think you'll besurprised.The connotation of "haveto" makes me tired just to sayit. It implies that I'm doing something I don't want todo. It...
•How To Find Your REAL Self Again
How To Find Your REAL Self Again by Kathy GatesOn the surface it seems an odd idea that you couldactually be anything other than who you really are. Butfrom the time we can talk, we're being programmed to"fit in". We find ourselves conforming in order toplease the people we love, and who love us. Butsometimes that means that you have to suppress whatyou know is the real person inside.If you're ready to get re-acquainted with someone youhaven't seen in a while - yourself - start with these...
•How To Get What You Want...From The People You Want It From
How To Get What You Want...From The People You Want It From by Kathy GatesSuccessful feedback is usually associated with improvingemployee productivity, but feedback is not just forsupervisor-employee relationships. Being able to deliverhonest, constructive feedback is also vital to healthyrelationships at home.You give feedback to your children, spouse, friends,doctor, and even your hair stylist.If you run a home based business, you also need to beable to give effective messages to...
•Instant Willpower
Instant Willpower
by: Kathy Gates
We’ve all heard people say “I have a system”. Ever since I was a little girl and watched my mother put together a grocery list, I’ve known -- and used -- the power of systems.
Systems help take the frustration out of daily living. They help you do what you WANT to do in an easier, more consistent way. A system practically does the work for you.
You don’t have to over-think it, you don’t have to spend time figuring it out. It pulls you forward...
•Keep Your Home Happier
Keep Your Home Happier
by: Kathy Gates
It turns out your mother was right after all -- Happiness really does begin at home, with the things and the people you are surrounded by. Your vision is one of the first messengers to send signals to your brain as to how it feels. Therefore, it follows that keeping your home happier will have a direct impact on how you feel.
What do you see in your home --Clutter? Chaos? Angry faces? What do you hear -- Loud voices; bad music?
What do you...
•Make Room For Happiness
Make Room For Happiness by Kathy GatesClose your eyes and visualize this. (Ok, bad idea...since you can't read with your eyes closed). So instead, just clear your thoughts for a minute and get this picture in your head. I've been painting my den. All the furniture is crowded together in the middle of the room. I expertly (yeah right) organized the space where we could get to the couch to watch TV...except of course anything we need, which is always seems to be clear across the room. It's...
•One Small Adjustment
One Small Adjustment by Kathy GatesI know that a lot of advice pundits often instruct you to focus on the "big picture". And it certainly has it place in helping you move toward a better life. But it runs the risk of letting you think that you need to totally redesign your life. And that's just not true! Often it only takes one small adjustment to make things so much easier, better, and happier in your life. Try instead to focus on the details, and the big picture will take care of itself....
•Quick Life Makeover
Quick Life Makeover Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach
You can try to chalk it up to “they don’t have as much to do as I do”. But let’s face it. Anybody who has an organized, smooth-flowing life has to work at it. I even heard one client of mine try to pass it off to good genes by saying that organized people have a different kind of brain.
And yes, I’ll concede that different types relate better to different things just as different bodies are easier to make lean than others. But,...
•Reduce Anxiety About Decison Making
Reduce Anxiety About Decison Making
by: Kathy Gates
What’s the alternative to making decisions?
Allowing someone else, or circumstances, to make them for you.
And that is giving up control of your life. That’s giving up all power to your life to other people or circumstance. And that will make you miserable
It reminds me of walking through a wonderful food buffet where you could have anything you want -- 0 calories! -- and allowing someone else to decide what you took on your...
•Road Map Of Life
Road Map Of Life by Kathy GatesIf you were going to drive to somewhere unfamiliar -whether cross country or just across the city - whatwould be the first thing you would do? Map it out?And then after you mapped it out, would you neverlook at the map again? Not likely.More likely, you would refer to the map often, to makesure that you were on the right track. You would beable to tell quickly if you needed to make adjustments,correct a mistake, or consider a change of plans.Posting your goals,...
•The Amazing Power of Small Steps
The Amazing Power of Small Steps by Kathy GatesIt's the small things in life that can drive you loco on anygiven day, isn't it? (yes, I see heads nodding!). Like thebatteries dying in your garage door opener in the middle ofthe mother of all rainstorms. Or the birdfeeder that makesa mess on the back patio. Or the leaky bathroom faucet.But it's also the small things in life that seem to make itall worthwhile. A hug from a child, making a new friend, abeautiful sunset, getting something on...
•The Power of Expectations
The Power of Expectations by Kathy GatesYou can sit around and wait on FedEx to drop off a big box of happiness on your doorstep if you want to. But that's not likely to happen anytime soon. Or you can get up, create an action plan, and get on with your life. It's 100% up to you.Expectations are a part of the universe that makes thing happen, both negatively and positively. Like atomic particles, universal forces cannot be explained, but plugging into them creates some kind of energy. You...
•What's Stopping You?
What's Stopping You?
by: Kathy Gates
We're all familiar with the cycle:
We want new, but resist change.
We want satisfaction, but procrastinate.
We want control, but defer to circumstance.
So, what’s stopping *you*?
A belief?
“I’m an incurable procrastinator, I’ll probably be late to my own funeral.” Beliefs like this dictate your thoughts, and your thoughts turn into action -- or in this case, *inaction*. Consciously turn those thoughts into something that can...
•You Can't Predict, You Can Prepare
You Can't Predict, You Can Prepare by Kathy GatesWhen opportunity knocks, can you open the door? When misfortune strikes, can you make it through unscathed? When you are faced with risk, uncertainty, and the unpredictable, your ability to deal with it is directly tied to your ability to absorb the consequences. Successful people know that in order to be "choosey" in life, in order to put themselves in a place of control over their lives, in order to make decisions on what they want instead...
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