•A Sense of Humor in the Workplace ... Is it me? Or, was that not funny?
A Sense of Humor in the Workplace ... Is it me? Or, was that not funny?
by: Edward B. Toupin
When I was first initiated into Corporate America, I had a sense of humor that went unmatched by any mortal soul. I was quick-witted, smart, sharp, and knew every gag and joke available to humanity. Most of it, I learned in college. But, college never really did teach the fact that having a sense of humor in the workplace is different than 'jocularity.' After a few brushes with career-chaos, I...
•Affirm-Actions ... Stop lying to your soul and make it real!
Affirm-Actions ... Stop lying to your soul and make it real!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I hear of so many people using affirmations as the universal remedy for everything that ails them. They wake up in the morning and verbalize their affirmations. They go through their days verbalizing positive statements about situations and their lives. Then, they go to bed saying their affirmations like bed-time prayers.
I tried reciting affirmations for a while, but never quite understood how stating...
•Afraid Of Dying? ... Afraid Of Living!
Afraid Of Dying? ... Afraid Of Living!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Over the years, I've heard many people voice their concerns of death and dying. It wasn't that they had any maladies that would cause them to die any time soon, but they were "afraid of their own immortality." The basic idea of death, or the potential of death, created a mind-numbing fear that, in some cases, forced them into isolation to avoid anything that could increase their chances of dying.
Although this might sound like a...
•Aim for the Future ... but don't get ulcers waiting for it to happen!
Aim for the Future ... but don't get ulcers waiting for it to happen! by Edward B. ToupinIt is always good to aim for a vision, to pursue a goal, and make yourdreams come true. However, there's a difference between chasing yourdreams and anticipating the outcome of the dreams. The main idea behinddreaming and pursuing your goals is to provide a sense of direction withpositive action. One mistake many people make is that, once they definea vision and set goals, they just sit there and wait...
•Analytic Overlay ... Missing Out On What Truly Is!
Analytic Overlay ... Missing Out On What Truly Is!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Some time ago, I successfully completed a remote viewing course here in Nevada. Not only was I quite amazed at the technology, but also that I had the ability to remote view as I did manage to hit nine targets out of nine. But, the most interesting thing I found, about myself, is that I've been missing out on a lot in my life. This is not a whining article outlining regrets, but an actualization of the things that...
•And what do you do?... How to know when you're a writer!
And what do you do?... How to know when you're a writer! by Edward B. ToupinIt's the funniest thing. When someone asks me what I do for a living, Itell them, "I'm a writer." The standard response is, "No, really, what doyou do?" Somehow, I always get lost in the conversation because I neverexpect that type of response. I end up floundering in hopes of somedayfinding a good response.--- So, how do you know you're a real writer? ---It has to be a certain look or smell that identifies you as a...
•Another Life ... I Wish I Were Someone Else
Another Life ... I Wish I Were Someone Else
by: Edward B. Toupin
In 1978, Erma Bombeck wrote a book entitled "The Grass is Always Greener over the Septic Tank." It was a most humorous read, at the time. Of course, this title falls in line with the idea that "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." But, her sentiments hit the idea head on in noting that there must be some specific reason that the grass is greener "over there." While the top layer is nice, plush, and...
•Artificial Intelligence ... what have we learned through natural ignorance?
Artificial Intelligence ... what have we learned through natural ignorance?
by: Edward B. Toupin
During the late '80s and early '90s, I had the opportunity to work with expert systems in real-time production environments. I found artificial intelligence, or AI, to be thoroughly intriguing. I even went so far as to write an expert system package, under Microsoft Windows, called WindExS. However, as I continued my work, and expanded into other areas of knowledge management and, eventually,...
•Balancing Act ... That's all life is!
Balancing Act ... That's all life is! by Edward B. ToupinOne of the most knowledgeable and intuitive ladies I know imparted uponme the ultimate knowledge of living a fulfilling life. As I awaited along, heartfelt soliloquy, she took a small breath, pointed her fingerand said, "balance." That was it. My only question was, "what?" Shesimply chuckled and walked away.Over the years, I slowly began to understand her single word. It wasn'tan easy lesson as, in my head, I was balanced. But, the...
•Basics Rules of Life Alignment
Basics Rules of Life Alignment by Edward B. ToupinLife alignment is the process of taking out the rough spots and aligning your life with your personal goals, desires, and objectives. It all has to do with your core belief systems and how you must learn to enhance them so that you can once again move forward in your life. The ultimate objective of balance is to define who you are now, and define your values, vision, mission, and goals.The basic elements of aligning your life are simple. As...
•Become an Internet Sourcer... Use Your Surfing Talent and Make a Few Bucks!
Become an Internet Sourcer... Use Your Surfing Talent and Make a Few Bucks! by Edward B. ToupinI've spent many thousands of hours on the Internet searching forinformation, jobs, contracts, people, and other items of interest. You canliterally find out anything! The trick is learning how to find relevant andhidden information in an efficient manner. This is the job of an 'InternetSourcer.'--- What is an Internet Sourcer? ---The Internet Sourcer is a relatively new position for many...
•Breaking Even ... When is Enough, Enough?
Breaking Even ... When is Enough, Enough?
by: Edward B. Toupin
I had the most interesting discussion today with a friend of mine. He and I were chatting about the economy, his job, families, and life in general. The one point that he kept raising was that of his "needing to do more" to pay the bills, be with his family, get promoted at work, fix the hot water heater, etc. It's always the "need to do more" to better accommodate more.
I had to stop and think for a minute --- more for more?...
•Challenge the Universe ... Demand your Desires!
Challenge the Universe ... Demand your Desires!
by: Edward B. Toupin
There have been so many times in my life where I have run into a series of obstacles that never seemed to stop. I could handle each and every one, but after a while, I would grow weary and want it all to come to an end so I could return to a reasonable life.
Over the years, I've learned that I can't just hope for positive change, I have to demand it and act on it. This approach is has nothing to do with affirmations...
•Challenge Yourself ... Stretch Your Boundaries Daily!
Challenge Yourself ... Stretch Your Boundaries Daily!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Many times we fall into a sedentary lifestyle because we fear forward movement. We eventually feel as though we've fallen into a rut and can't seem to escape. However, this is where we tend to forget that part of moving forward in life is to continue challenging yourself and your abilities.
It is important that you test your boundaries and see how far you can go. Challenge your own beliefs to increase your...
•Changing Destinations ... Universal Detours for a Better Life
Changing Destinations ... Universal Detours for a Better Life by Edward B. ToupinI recently worked with several people who are in the lowest points intheir lives. It seems that everywhere they turn and everything they docreates a new avalanche of loss. Some of these people were, at onetime, wealthy individuals, but, because of changes around them, theysuddenly lost everything. The others were living comfortable lives andit seemed like everything just stopped working for them. In all...
•Context-Free Living ... Living Without Boundaries!
Context-Free Living ... Living Without Boundaries!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I know by now that you've heard the terms "Debt-Free Living", "Disease-Free Living", or an overabundance of other such coined terms for various marketing ploys to sell products and services. However, I'm not here to sell you anything, as what I'm offering, you already have! You just don't know it yet!
--- Context-Free ---
A "context" is a circumstance, point of reference, or a situation by which a particular view is...
•Controllable Destiny ... Setting a Destination and Experiencing the Ride
Controllable Destiny ... Setting a Destination and Experiencing the Ride by Edward B. ToupinThe many ideas of "living life" are the most indistinctly defined conundrumsthat a human being can ponder. Philosophy has its own definitions of lifeand living. Of course, so do religions, corporations, politicians, andevery diverse group on the planet. Some of the looser definitions I hearfrom many people include:- Life is ruled by destiny.- Life is ruled by fate.- We all live by a Universal Plan.-...
•Corporate Survival... How to manage yourself in the political playing field!
Corporate Survival... How to manage yourself in the political playing field! by Edward B. ToupinIn my first corporate job, I had high expectations that promotions werebased on a solid work ethic and quality production. I wanted to aim for thetop and make it happen. Unfortunately, my ideas of corporate environmentwere inaccurate. As a grunt, an engineer, and a manager, the games, turfwars, and political thrashings taught me numerous incredible lessons. Inthe end, I made it to where I wanted...
•Define Your Own Future ... Shatter The Crystal Ball!
Define Your Own Future ... Shatter The Crystal Ball!
by: Edward B. Toupin
When I decided to look into remote viewing, I had the impression that it had some bizarre metaphysical and psychic associations. But, in reality, remote viewing is a natural and 'taught' method of probing remote locations in the past, present, and future. As I learned and experimented, one of the important things that I discovered is that you cannot accurately predict the future of any person or event. Of course,...
•Developing Free Content... It's not really as bad as it sounds!
Developing Free Content... It's not really as bad as it sounds! by Edward B. ToupinI hear many writers refute the idea of writing free content. While I agree,in the simplest terms, it is "something for nothing", the benefits of freecontent actually outweigh the down-side of writing for free. Is it reallyfor nothing?--- The Battle for Content ---The competition for content is fierce. Every Web site owner wants contentand hundreds of writers want their content visible on the Web. There are...
•Developing Screenplay Ideas ... My well runneth --- in many directions!
Developing Screenplay Ideas ... My well runneth --- in many directions! by Edward B. ToupinRecently, I started a screenwriting and movie-making group here in Las Vegas. Our objective was to begin at, well, the beginning of the process and work all the way through to an edited movie. Sounds easy? Yes! Is it really? Not at all.The one thing I ran into at the very beginning was the problem of demonstrating the development of an idea into something that could be used as screenplay material. The...
•Don't take things so seriously!
Don't take things so seriously! by Edward B. ToupinLife is sometimes just what it is. Sometimes you can control a situation and other times you cannot. However, we sometimes become so caught up in the direction and desire that we lose concept of the current location and the ultimate destination.Don't allow things to interfere with your life by absorbing them into your soul and mental workings. It is important to be responsible for yourself and your actions, but not about those things that...
•Educate Yourself about Telecommuting... But don't go broke buying Information Packets!
Educate Yourself about Telecommuting... But don't go broke buying Information Packets! by Edward B. ToupinMany people purchase these great "Information Packets" on the Internet thatlist jobs and tell them how to find a telecommuting job. But, as you'veprobably already noticed, most of the information in these packets is freeelsewhere on the Web! It's time to learn how to take the Internet by thehorns and find the jobs that can make you a successful telecommuter. Youcan do it all without...
•Ego, Arrogance, and Self-Esteem
Ego, Arrogance, and Self-Esteem
by: Edward B. Toupin
The pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain are not our only motivators. Whether you realize it or not, our underlying purpose in life is to define and pursue our true purpose in life. Regardless of what we feel or do, we are all simply searching for some type of meaning within our own individual existence that can somehow take us further. However, many problems we face in our lives arise from the lack of true life meaning.
We...
•Experience Your Life ... The tough spots make the easy parts better!
Experience Your Life ... The tough spots make the easy parts better! by Edward B. ToupinWe all run into hard times, or challenges, as we head down our paths through life. However, some of us seem to get stuck in what appears to be a continuous cycle of 'bad luck.' This cycle slams us down and forces us to battle ghosts, or old problems, in an attempt to free ourselves to move forward in life again. Good luck, bad luck, no luck. It's all a function of our own desires and motivation. This...
•Extraordinary People ... in Mediocre Times
Extraordinary People ... in Mediocre Times
by: Edward B. Toupin
My grandfather used to speak of the days when people drove the world. It was a time when people were proud to contribute and move society and industry forward at full steam. But, people were proud of themselves! However, before he died, one of his observations was that "we have come to mediocre times."
I was a bit appalled at that statement because, to me, these times were the epitome of existence! However, over the...
•Fearing the Future ... I am what I fear!
Fearing the Future ... I am what I fear!
by: Edward B. Toupin
When we were children, we were fearless. We would stick our hands in the fire, chew on the beetle bugs, and eat that dirt. But, over time, we learned those things that we should not do through experience and from "parental voices" --- those baseless fears passed down through the generations. Later in life, we learned that fire burns, beetle bugs are "yucky" and dirt is not nutritious. But, we also learned all of the things...
•From Idea to Published Book ... How to Self-Publish the Easy Way!
From Idea to Published Book ... How to Self-Publish the Easy Way!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I've been involved in publishing for over a decade now as an author, editor, and project manager; however, it wasn't until just a few years ago that I decided to move into self-publishing. Indeed, my first few projects involved consulting for others and, now, I am involved in my own, personal projects. It has taken a while for me to come back around to my own works, but in the process I learned how to...
•Getting Out of the Rut... Initiating and Managing Change
Getting Out of the Rut... Initiating and Managing Change by Edward B. ToupinHave you ever accomplished something, then wondered where to go next? Or,perhaps you've accomplished something and just continued down that same pathbecause it worked. Many people become stuck in this way because of the"security of sameness." You can get stuck from problems as well astriumphs.I have to say that my life has been a most interesting set of twists andturns, but I've always had the opportunity to maintain...
•God's Name ... Creation and Undoing!
God's Name ... Creation and Undoing!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Over the past number of years, while going through my studies and research, information and answers come to the surface that are most astounding. I have come to understand things differently than I was taught in years of Catholic schooling. Although, I still believe in the "bigger picture" and "something greater", it has taken on a different tone and context. It has turned from a fearful system of faith to a confident system of...
•Greed and Selfishness ... Knowing The Difference And Loving Yourself!
Greed and Selfishness ... Knowing The Difference And Loving Yourself!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I hear many people discuss how selfishness leads to greed, or that being greedy is part of being selfish. I simply have to say that "greed" and "selfishness" are not the same things. These are "value words" and are based on ideas and information drilled into our heads when we were younger as something known as "basic morals."
As you grow and change, you find that these value words don't seem to fit...
•Growth from Discontent ... Life's Way Of Giving You A Little Push
Growth from Discontent ... Life's Way Of Giving You A Little Push
by: Edward B. Toupin
That strange, gut-wrenching feeling you have is not the sushi you had for lunch. It's your soul trying to give you a nudge to do something. A word for that feeling is "discontent." Discontent is a state of not being satisfied or fulfilled in your current situation.
Of course, this same feeling can apply to a hundred different situations, from a work-related issue to a personal issue at home. But,...
•Hypnotized by the Crowd ... Lost in the forest of beliefs!
Hypnotized by the Crowd ... Lost in the forest of beliefs! by Edward B. ToupinOver the years of growth and maturity, we become hypnotized by our own belief systems. We move through life under the influence of societal and religious rank and file. Parental voices fill our heads such that we believe in a stricter form of beliefs than did our previous generations as, for each generation, the mind becomes less open and accepting and more filled with what is required to belong to the crowds of...
•Knowledge is Power ... So, Keep Your Mouth Closed To Keep It From Getting Away!
Knowledge is Power ... So, Keep Your Mouth Closed To Keep It From Getting Away!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Did you ever wonder why it sometimes seems that communications is lacking within an organization or corporate culture? It is one of those frustrating situations that appear to put a halt to positive productivity. You meander around trying to gather hacked information that you feel is important, yet the one person that should know the whole story "doesn't know a thing." Then, at the last...
•Learning How To Fall ... You Have To Learn To Fall Before You Can Ride With Confidence!
Learning How To Fall ... You Have To Learn To Fall Before You Can Ride With Confidence!
by: Edward B. Toupin
About a month ago, I was hit by a car while riding my motorcycle. The car side-swiped me and took off. My bike bounced off the car, shot out from under me, and I rolled under the car. Amazingly enough, I stood up, picked up my bike, and got to the side of the street without any problems. All I had was a small bit of road rash on my elbow. I was lucky!
However, I'm not writing...
•Levels of Life... Creeping up the Ladder of Excellence
Levels of Life... Creeping up the Ladder of Excellence by Edward B. ToupinHave you ever wondered why someone felt so distant or seemed so differentthan anyone else in a crowd? Have you ever wondered why you always seemedto struggle with some mundane task in your life while others seem to soar?If you answered yes to either of those questions, then you need to sit backand evaluate your current situation and determine the best way to beginmoving up through the various levels of life. Life is a...
•Locating a Telecommuting Opportunity... As easy as shooting a watermelon out your nose!
Locating a Telecommuting Opportunity... As easy as shooting a watermelon out your nose! by Edward B. ToupinI can say that getting a solid telecommuting opportunity is not an easytask. They're out there, but locating them can be extremely difficult andtime-consuming. Even with all the e-books, reports, and telecommutingpackages you've probably purchased, it just doesn't happen overnight.--- What can I do? ---The best way to break into a telecommuting situation is to locate an officejob that...
•Look Where You're Going ... And Keep An Eye On The Blind Spots!
Look Where You're Going ... And Keep An Eye On The Blind Spots!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I recently had the pleasure of motorcycle riding instruction from a friend, Tony, a professional racer. He was an outstanding instructor and provided some great experience-based insight into the more intricate details of motorcycle riding. But, the one thing that stuck in my mind was his comment of "always look where you're going." I had always assumed that this is what I did, but I found out that there...
•Losing Site of Your Goals ... Determining Your Vision From Your Actions!
Losing Site of Your Goals ... Determining Your Vision From Your Actions!
by: Edward B. Toupin
In the fury of trying to accomplish our goals, we tend to lose site of our Vision. We get so caught up in "doing things" that we forget why we're doing them. In the process, we lose hope, lose drive, and end up running in a circle trying to find our "reason" again. In our circular dance, we fill in the gaps with unnecessary activities, or "busy work", to make us feel as though we're moving...
•Lunacy at its Finest ... Crazymakers and Intimidators In Your Life!
Lunacy at its Finest ... Crazymakers and Intimidators In Your Life!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Did you ever run into that person that just nags and picks and scares you into submission? How about that person that appears to turn your world upside-down? What about that person that literally sucks the energy right out of your soul? Believe it or not, these people do exist and they can affect you in ways you never thought possible.
--- Crazymakers ---
A Crazymaker is someone who feeds on...
•Making Sense of the Internet Job Search... Fine-tune your job search and save valuable time!
Making Sense of the Internet Job Search... Fine-tune your job search and save valuable time! by Edward B. ToupinWhen I first started job hunting on the Internet, I would spend countlesshours searching for anything and everything. I would search one site, thenjump to another, and search some more. One of the most frustrating thingsabout job searching on the Internet is that most of the same job postingsare duplicated across hundreds of job search sites! It's like having threehundred Houston...
•Making the Grade ... Learning to pass life's tests with ease
Making the Grade ... Learning to pass life's tests with ease by Edward B. ToupinI abhorred tests in college. I always felt unprepared when I took them.However, when I got them back from my professors, I usually made an A.It was funny that I always felt like I lacked what it took to pass thetest, yet I always had it. Much like life, it's not the task itself,but how you prepare for and undertake that task.For those courses in which I listened and read, I passed the testwhether I felt good...
•Manage Your Expectations ... and raise the bar on your quality of life!
Manage Your Expectations ... and raise the bar on your quality of life!
by: Edward B. Toupin
When I was a newbie in 'the game of life,' I wanted to succeed beyond my wildest dreams. I wanted to make it big and take on the world, all at once. My expectations were so high that not even Jack could reach them on his beanstalk. However, over time, after much frustration and burn out, I shifted to the other extreme by dropping my expectations, and dreams.
The idea of lowering our expectations...
•Meaning in Life ... Take control and enjoy!
Meaning in Life ... Take control and enjoy! by Edward B. ToupinSometimes we get so involved in little things that we spiral down a hole that seems almost impossible to escape. We end up in a place where we feel helpless, lost, and completely overwhelmed out of the fear that this is all there is to life. At the point of the maximum distress, we almost give up and decide to simply fall into a day-to-day routine so that everything is easier. In the process, we give up on our dreams and desires...
•Not My Assignment ... If You Didn't Create It, Then It's Not Yours!
Not My Assignment ... If You Didn't Create It, Then It's Not Yours!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Life consists of lessons. Living is continual learning. Therefore, if you take on someone else's issues and responsibilities, or lessons, would that not be classified as cheating? Are you not cheating yourself out of your own life? Are you not cheating others out of their own lessons?
At one time or another, we all get involved with someone else's issues. These issues can include family issues,...
•Promotional Content... It's the little things that count
Promotional Content... It's the little things that count by Edward B. ToupinPromotional content is the invisible content in the various recesses of aWeb page. This type of content is used by search engines and directories toproperly categorize your site and its pages during indexing.--- Site Title ---The title is the first thing a search engine displays as a result of asearch. This makes it imperative that the title contains something readableand descriptive. Do not place a bunch of...
•Rebuilding Oneself ... the Universe's Basic Training
Rebuilding Oneself ... the Universe's Basic Training
by: Edward B. Toupin
I remember Air Force Basic Training. My Training Instructor not only wanted to teach me the military way, but he also wanted to break me down so that he could rebuild me according to the needs of the military. These are two of the underlying premises of your first few weeks, or months, of your time in the military. Actually, I enjoyed it, but then Air Force Basic is only between six and eight weeks. The other...
•Remote Viewing ... What is it anyway?
Remote Viewing ... What is it anyway? by Edward B. ToupinEver since I began posting information about remote viewing on my site, more and more people have been asking about what it is and how it works. At first, I thought this would be a simple topic to write; however, I began to realize that there is a lot of information presented that might not be easy to grasp. In this article, I am going to provide a simple overview of remote viewing and, generally, how it works. This way, readers will...
•Self-Divine-ation ... Defining a Divine Future!
Self-Divine-ation ... Defining a Divine Future!
by: Edward B. Toupin
In some of my counseling and coaching sessions, my clients ask me to perform a reading to tell them their future. In many cases, my response is, "why don't you tell me your future?" They stop and stare, speechless. Of course, that sounds sarcastic and demeaning, but indeed, you know your future better than anyone else!
I am in no way knocking the psychic arts, but I'm presenting you with the fact that you have the...
•Self-Recovery from Addiction ... Taking responsibility for your life.
Self-Recovery from Addiction ... Taking responsibility for your life.
by: Edward B. Toupin
I've had several coaching clients come to me who, while they wanted to move forward in life, were actually stuck in a self-destructive addiction. Of course, I cannot directly confront them about their addictions, as they had to open up to me that it was part of the problem that was keeping them in the same rut in which they found themselves day-after-day. As we worked together to make plans and open...
•Simplifying Your Existence ... In Search of the Good Life
Simplifying Your Existence ... In Search of the Good Life by Edward B. ToupinI hear many people distress about their need to simplify their lives and "move to the mountains." Their desire is to eliminate all of the things that cause them stress and move into a less hectic, and more gentle, lifestyle. They want the dream of solitude and calm with easy living. However, simplifying your life does not necessarily mean selling everything and moving to a mountain cabin. I've done it, and it's not...
•Software Configuration Management... for the Technical Writer
Software Configuration Management... for the Technical Writer by Edward B. ToupinMany software companies with which I've worked didn't have any type ofprocess in place for tracking and managing their software. Usually two orthree lead developers controlled the software. Everyone else had to workbehind them to update or integrate their individual components. As theprojects grew, developers became confused, management became frustrated, andwriters quit because it was hard to keep up with so...
•The Chi of New Homes ... Feng Shui-ness and Destiny
The Chi of New Homes ... Feng Shui-ness and Destiny
by: Edward B. Toupin
When my wife and I were searching for a new Las Vegas home in 2002, we wanted it to have a solid foundation based on Feng Shui principles. My wife researched the essentials and we decided to build a home that met our needs and supported good Chi. The internal layout of the furniture was a slow process because we want to ensure that everything "was energy (Chi) efficient". We even went so far as to pick a plot of land...
•The Fairness of Office Politics ... Integrity and Political Motivation!
The Fairness of Office Politics ... Integrity and Political Motivation!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I hear many complaints daily about the "unfairness" of politics in corporate America. Employees say that their managers "lie" or issue "personal attacks" against them. Indeed, based on the pure ideals that we are taught as a child, this might appear to be the case. However, the corporate culture is not the "real world" in which we live out our personal lives. Each corporate culture is its own...
•The Need for a Belief System ... a system of organization for your experiences!
The Need for a Belief System ... a system of organization for your experiences!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I've spoken with many people who, over time, have felt inundated by their lives. It seems as though they've accumulated all of these memories and experiences, but the information seems jumbled and overwhelming. This pile of 'mind junk' keeps getting in their way whenever they attempt to move forward in life. It's as if they feel that they have to deal with each and every disassociated...
•The Reason Nothing Happens ... Is Because Nothing Is Happening!
The Reason Nothing Happens ... Is Because Nothing Is Happening!
by: Edward B. Toupin
I hear many clients declare how boring and stagnant their lives have become. As they disclose their concerns, the answer usually bubbles near the surface, but never quite makes it to the top. However, after a few minutes, I usually ask, "What are you doing to re-energize your life?" The most common answer is, "I dunno what to do!" Ah, the answer to the problem in itself!
Life becomes stagnant for...
•Time for Change ... When your basic systems no longer work for you
Time for Change ... When your basic systems no longer work for you by Edward B. ToupinI've heard many clients and friends discuss how they just can't seem to movebeyond their current situations in life. They can't find a better job, makemore money, find happiness in relationships, or find fulfillment. Thequestion I usually ask is, "What is your idea of the perfect, fulfillingsituation?" They usually sputter a few ideas then stop and realize thatthey truly don't know what it is that would...
•Touching One's Soul ... The Ultimate Inspiration for a Writer
Touching One's Soul ... The Ultimate Inspiration for a Writer by Edward B. ToupinFrom smoke and dirt to pollution and oil, it is amazing how much gunk can collect on a window over time. I sit here in my office looking out the window that appears to look the same as it did when it was new, but wondering why it was always a gray overcast outside. I was just used to the slow collection of crud so I never really noticed how opaque the window was becoming. It took a lot of cleaner, four rags, and...
•Two Types of Spirituality ... Faith and Knowledge
Two Types of Spirituality ... Faith and Knowledge
by: Edward B. Toupin
The term "spirituality" is a confusing term. Usually, when one mentions "spirituality", the first thought in many people's minds is that of "religion". While religion is an aspect of spirituality, spirituality is not an aspect of religion. Spirituality covers other areas of belief as well. Put simply, spirituality is the all-encompassing arena of "belief in something greater." This can be a god, oneself as the...
•Under Their Thumb ... Tripping The Parental Triggers!
Under Their Thumb ... Tripping The Parental Triggers!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Some of my clients have come to me feeling like their worlds were not under their own control. They felt as though everyone else ran their lives and had some aspect of control in everything that they did. I asked them to note some specific situations in which they felt this way and how they felt "out of control" of the situation. It's interesting to note that in every circumstance, there was some aspect of "guilt"...
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